I have noticed this: home does not begin with affection. It begins with familiarity.

It announces itself quietly. In small, almost forgettable moments. The first time I can drive somewhere without checking directions. The first morning I wake up and don’t have to rehearse how the day will work. The moment the landscape stops feeling like something I must navigate carefully and starts feeling like something I know how to move within.

Funerals you have to travel to ask something different of you—not because the loss is greater, but because getting there is never assumed, and presence itself becomes something that must be negotiated rather than expected. They are not the kind where you grab your keys and go, or where presence is automatic. They begin instead with a quiet reckoning: before grief is allowed to surface, you must first determine whether you are even able to be there.

Sometimes the laugh comes because something is genuinely funny. Sometimes it comes because crying would take longer to recover from. And sometimes it comes because there is no other reasonable way through the absurdity except to step straight over it, laughing as you go.

This life moves like the tides—both beautiful and brutal, forever shifting between highs and lows. I love it. I love the friendships that form fast and last across miles, the community that steps in when you need it most, the purpose that steadies me when I start to wonder what it’s all for. And I hate it too—the solo parenting, the 2 a.m. phone calls, the way the unseen work of keeping a family afloat is quietly placed on our shoulders. Both are true. Both live inside me.

One of the quiet gifts of this life is how often neighbors become more than acquaintances. They become the people your children run to after school, the ones who walk into your kitchen without knocking, the ones who slip into your days until you cannot imagine living without them. In a world where change is constant, neighbors have so often been the steadying presence that made each new duty station feel like home.

When the last box is broken down, you realize you are not only unpacking belongings—you are unpacking your whole self. With every new introduction, you must decide how much of your story to share, and how much to hold back until trust is earned. It is a vulnerable thing, to present yourself over and over as the newcomer.

There are seasons in this life when you do not pack a single box, yet you still feel as though you are starting over. The movers never came, the walls never changed, but suddenly all your people are gone—sent on their next adventure while you remain behind. The neighborhood grows quiet, the familiar faces vanish from school pick-up lines, and gatherings that once filled your calendar are no longer yours to attend. It is a different kind of ache, one that whispers: everyone else is moving forward, and you are standing still.

Before anything else, I want you to know how glad I am that you are here. Across the many seasons of this life, writing has always been the way I steady myself. Journals tucked on nightstands, scraps of words scribbled between errands, pages filled when the weight of a moment grew too heavy to hold silently—writing has been my companion for as long as I can remember.