A Letter for the Funerals We Travel To

Funerals you have to travel to ask something different of you—not because the loss is greater, but because getting there is never assumed, and presence itself becomes something that must be negotiated rather than expected. They are not the kind where you grab your keys and go, or where presence is automatic. They begin instead with a quiet reckoning: before grief is allowed to surface, you must first determine whether you are even able to be there.