Some days, joy does not arrive in sweeping gestures or perfectly framed photographs—it slips quietly into the edges of our lives. It comes in the squeal of laughter when Bean demands another round of “spins,” her curls flying as she twirls around the kitchen in my arms or Beloved’s. It lingers in the weight of Bun pressed against me as his voice insists, "just one more chapter before bed," and I relent because I know he won’t be little forever and all too soon he will stop asking me to read to him all together.

Fall has always felt like a season of warmth to me—the crisp bite of air, the smell of leaves and woodsmoke, neighbors gathering again after summer’s heat. In military life, fall becomes the settling season: new faces start to feel familiar, routines take shape, and we begin to see what our “new normal” will be for the year ahead. It is a quieter change than summer’s chaos, a reminder that even in constant transition, there are seasons that steady us and help us find our roots again.

Resilience is not merely surviving; it is choosing to live fully in the middle of what feels impossible. It is the legacy they handed down: not in speeches or medals, but in daily choices that stitched community, hope, and endurance into the fabric of their families

September 11th is not merely a date on the calendar—it is a marker of the world we entered as military families. It shaped the missions our beloveds would undertake, the deployments that came, and the friendships forged in hardship and separation. It shaped us, too—the families who learned to wait, to endure, to steady ourselves through uncertainty.

Invisible strengths are hard to name, perhaps because they do not trumpet their presence. They grow quietly, like roots beneath the soil, unseen until their hold steadies us. Only when we look back do we realize how much they have carried us, woven through our days like threads of resilience hidden in the fabric of our lives.

In my earliest years as a military spouse, one moment stands out with lasting clarity. I was heavily pregnant, new to a unit, and suddenly facing my husband’s unexpected TDY orders. Within hours, the house was quiet, the contractions were beginning, and I realized with a sinking heart that I had no one nearby to call. Not a Key Spouse, not a Chaplain, not even a neighbor—I had not yet woven those threads of connection.