It comes the way most things do in this life: quietly, almost unnoticed, slipping in beside the routines already in motion. The same coffee mug waits on the counter. The same kitchen light hums on before the house stirs. The same life continues, intact and unfolding, even as the calendar insists we call it something different.

There is no right answer to the question of where you “should” be this December. There is only the truth of what your family needs, and the quiet courage it takes to honor that.

The holidays never sweep in all at once; they arrive gently, on tiptoe. For us, the beginning is marked by a carton of eggnog waiting in the fridge until Black Friday, by music humming through the kitchen, and by the tree rising in its corner while the children scatter boxes of ornaments like treasure.

Each November, as Veterans Day draws near, I find myself reflecting on the many faces behind the word service. It’s a word that has quietly shaped every season of my life — as a daughter watching her father lace up his boots, as a wife who knows the rhythm of duty days and homecomings, as a mother teaching her children what it means to belong to something greater than ourselves.

September 11th is not merely a date on the calendar—it is a marker of the world we entered as military families. It shaped the missions our beloveds would undertake, the deployments that came, and the friendships forged in hardship and separation. It shaped us, too—the families who learned to wait, to endure, to steady ourselves through uncertainty.