I recall my first deployment as a spouse as though it were only yesterday. I was ten weeks postpartum, tired in both body and spirit, still trying to find my rhythm as a new mother. The days leading up to departure were a blur of sleepless nights and tender hours, when I wanted every moment to count but felt too drained to hold it all. The goodbye itself was painful, but what nearly undid me was the sight of the calendar — a stretch of time marked only by uncertainty. Four months was promised, but it could stretch to six. That kind of open horizon is heavy when your heart is already weary.

We find ourselves in a season of not yet. Not yet knowing where the next set of orders will take us. Not yet able to give a polished answer when asked, “So what’s next for you?” Not yet sure when the long-anticipated call will finally come. The “not yet” slips into our lives almost daily — in Bun’s hopeful guesses at the dinner table, in the bedtime whispers that stretch past lights-out, and in the way Beloved and I exchange that look which says, “Still no news?” without the need for words. Even little Bean, though too young to name it, senses the pause in the air of our home.