I have noticed this: home does not begin with affection. It begins with familiarity.

It announces itself quietly. In small, almost forgettable moments. The first time I can drive somewhere without checking directions. The first morning I wake up and don’t have to rehearse how the day will work. The moment the landscape stops feeling like something I must navigate carefully and starts feeling like something I know how to move within.

It comes the way most things do in this life: quietly, almost unnoticed, slipping in beside the routines already in motion. The same coffee mug waits on the counter. The same kitchen light hums on before the house stirs. The same life continues, intact and unfolding, even as the calendar insists we call it something different.

And uncertainty, as this year ends, is not abstract. It is layered and present, already pressing forward. Change is coming — movement, transition, another reshaping of what home will look like — and military life has taught me that no amount of planning removes the unknown. Every year arrives carrying something new, whether we feel ready or not.