nticipation before anything happens, and not the dramatic packout days later when everything is wrapped and carried out and the house begins to look less like yours with every passing hour. This is quieter than that. This is the middle stage, the one where life still looks mostly normal while pieces of it quietly become inaccessible.

I am choosing to take small steps toward what comes next, while still allowing myself to live fully in what is now. To sit in the familiar spaces that have held our laughter and our tears, to move through these rooms as though they are still ours… because they are. To look at the people who have become part of our everyday lives and see them not as something I am losing, but as something I still have.

Over time, I have come to understand that traditions, too, must gently yield as life demands. Some years we embrace them fully, reveling in every detail. Other years, like the one when I was heavy with Bean and carrying the weight of a long TDY alone, tradition meant nothing more than spreading pumpkin butter on bread and calling it enough. And it was.

We find ourselves in a season of not yet. Not yet knowing where the next set of orders will take us. Not yet able to give a polished answer when asked, “So what’s next for you?” Not yet sure when the long-anticipated call will finally come. The “not yet” slips into our lives almost daily — in Bun’s hopeful guesses at the dinner table, in the bedtime whispers that stretch past lights-out, and in the way Beloved and I exchange that look which says, “Still no news?” without the need for words. Even little Bean, though too young to name it, senses the pause in the air of our home.